Jessica Simpson is doing her best to connect with country music fans by getting personal onstage, but she continues to raise questions -- and eyebrows -- by sharing her thoughts on the abuse-themed song "Remember That" off her forthcoming album, "Do You Know."

Jessica seems to be carrying around a lot of baggage, literally and figuratively.

On the heels of her interview with Elle, in which the Tony Romo-smitten starlet said she's "definitely experienced abuse in a way that I would tell people to take their heart and run," she opened up on Monday at the California State Fair in Sacramento.

She informed the audience that she cried the first time she heard the tune, which includes the lines "It doesn't matter how he hurts you/With his hands or with his words/You don't deserve it/It ain't worth it/Take your heart and run."

"I realized how much value I had lost when I was in a certain relationship and how much self-confidence I lost," said Simpson (via CMT News), who once again remained vague on the particulars of that "certain" dysfunctional relationship.

Simpson, who was kitted out in a white corset and plenty of countrified turquoise accessories, reportedly came close to tears while belting out the ditty, which was penned by Nashville songwriters Rachel Proctor and Victoria Banks.

"That's a hard song to sing up here," she confessed when it was over.

CMT says Simpson also cautioned the crowd that abusers will often offer a mea culpa, but it's best to "put on your sneakers, take your heart and run away as fast as you can. It's hard to do, but God will bless you if you do."

She reiterated that stance later in the show, noting, "They always come back. Just don't pick up the phone."

That's apparently something Jessica doesn't have to worry about.

In this week's People, which features her in the coveted cover spot alongside the schmaltzy headline "How I Found Love Again," she reveals how she changed her phone number and e-mail address in order to keep her former flames at bay (those exes include "guys that people don't know that I've been in love with," she says. "I've had secret lovers.").

Explains Simpson of her no-communication policy, "I don't want anybody that's been in my life [before] in my life anymore. I don't even want them to have any way of contacting me."

And while "perfect guy" Romo hasn't followed suit by changing his info, she insists she doesn't care.

"I'm not a jealous girlfriend," says the singer, 28, who last week laughed off claims made by Tony's ex, Carrie Underwood, that he still calls her. 

As has become her custom, gabby Jess does plenty of gushing over her Dallas Cowboys beau, even fate-temptingly revealing, "I just told him today, 'You're the love of my life. I don't really ever say that to anybody," except perhaps former husband Nick Lachey, whom she made the same romantic declaration to five years ago.

She also tells the mag how she had to "regain" her "self-esteem and self-value" after her breakup last year with John Mayer, but adds that she remains a hopeful romantic.

"I just love," says Jessica, "so I don't understand when people can't do exactly what I do."

And even though Simpson played up her unlucky-in-love past at the state fair, warning the audience that she'd be "singing a lot about a heart that's been broken to pieces" and her attempts to put "those pieces back together so I can be a good girlfriend to someone else," she did offer some less serious revelations.

"How many of you out there have ever dated a butthead? Well, so have I!" proclaimed the warbler.

What's more, she pointed out, "If you want to date me, you have to be OK with camera flashes. You have to be OK with people telling you that you're dating a dumb butt. You have to allow me to pass gas under the sheets."

And even if you can handle the dreaded "Dutch oven," there's still her freewheeling way with cash: "I spend too much money, too!"

Jessica's shopping habits were often played for laughs on "Newlyweds," with thrifty Lachey frequently sighing in frustration over her purchases.

No word on whether he still has that problem with Vanessa Minnillo, whom he's been dating for two snooze-inducing years, although it appears he isn't stingy with those three little words.

"What a girl wants more than anything in the world is for their boyfriend to say 'I love you,'" Minnillo tells -- zzzzzzzzzz, whoa, sorry, dozed off there for a second -- People. "The L-word is not thrown around by men as easily as it is by women -- but I didn't say it first! [Nick's] very loving. We're very open and vocal."