Posted Oct. 27, 2008

Madonna and kids Lourdes, David and Rocco are spotted leaving the Kabbalah Center in New York on Oct. 24. (© WireImage.com)

With Madonna's split from Guy Ritchie growing increasingly rancorous, she sought refuge at the Kabbalah Centre in New York on Friday and Saturday, attending services with kids Lourdes, 12, Rocco, 8, and David, 3. But is she also seeking the religion's help in keeping her emotions in check?

So claims the London Sun, which says Madonna, 50, is undergoing "intense Kabbalah anger management counseling" to get a handle on her "boiling rage" at Ritchie, 40.

A few of the things said to have her fuming: Her soon-to-ex husband's supposed money cravings and the mean-spirited marital speculation that's been splashed all over the tabloids (he's been accused of calling her a "granny" and a "piece of gristle"; she's purportedly labeled him a gold digger).

"Madonna is very angry with Guy -- about his cold treatment of her in the marriage, about the nasty details of their marriage that have leaked out, and about the money he is demanding," says a source. "She's furious that he feels entitled to get a lot of cash, while she's the one working her ass off on tour."

Word is, a Kabbalah adviser is tagging along on her Sticky & Sweet tour to make sure her fury doesn't reach a fever pitch.

The counselor is "helping her try to put aside her anger, so they can settle the divorce as quickly as possible for the sake of the children," adds the snitch. "The counselor is telling her she will meet her soul mate -- but first has to calm her anger."

But is Madonna doing that with the aid of a shovel and a deep hole?

One of Madonna's soon-to-be-buried memories? The couple christen then-4-month-old Rocco the day before their wedding in 2000. (©Reuters)

A source tells Britain's Sunday Express that the Big M decided to collect all her Ritchie mementos -- photos, letters and other keepsakes -- into a metal box and bury them.

"Madonna wants to get Guy's energy out of her life to help her have a more balanced view for the divorce," explains the mole. "In effect she wants to bury that part of her life and the attachment she had with Ritchie, and this is how she thinks she can do it and move on. It will be a little bit like a funeral as she lays that part of her life to rest."

An assistant has supposedly been charged with gathering the objects from the estranged couple's many homes.

"All photographs and letters will be digitally scanned and stored on a computer memory stick," continues the spy. "There are lists of what she wants collected, which will be checked off against the box's contents."

Adds the insider, "She and Guy have both shed tears over the end of their marriage, but things have turned nasty and that is not what Madonna wants. She is trying hard to stay calm and civilized. She is being very philosophical about it, but she is also adamant that Guy will not get a huge settlement. She does not think he needs it."

Ritchie remains gainfully employed at the moment as the director of "Sherlock Holmes," and on Thursday night he put on a happy face as he hit a London gallery with stars Robert Downey Jr. and Jude Law for an artist pal's exhibition.

"Guy was in great form, hanging out with friends having a good time," an eyewitness tells People. "He seemed quite merry and had his arms around lots of people and smiling. ... I think the distraction is just what he needed, especially the way he was smiling."

Meanwhile, whispers continue over Madonna and Guy's together-time -- or lack thereof. On the heels of claims that they once went 18 months with no nookie, the London Daily Mail purports that their intimate encounters were scheduled "weeks in advance."

"With her time being so precious to her, and with there being more important things to her, like spending three of four hours in the gym every day, it became just another thing in the [calendar]," snipes a confidant. "In the last couple of years, it was all schemed into the [calendar]."

Ritchie, says the source, "felt this a tremendous turnoff to be at the same level of importance as, for example, her gym sessions and Kabbalah meetings. As a consequence, their sex life died more than a year ago. It is no exaggeration to say that they had not shared a bed in a year when the divorce was announced. And when the sex died for them, the marriage was doomed."